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Kasdeja · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 8:28 am Post subject:

I voted to hand him the phone...just because he's on the phone doesn't mean he's going to want to go on a date right away. I remember talking to boys on the phone at that age and I didn't get to date until 16. I wouldn't advocate being too strict, though...I know first hand what kids do with the first taste of freedom when they've had a very sheltered upbringing. Ithink you handled it well, actually. Very Happy

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Killthesmiley · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 8:40 am Post subject: Re: i think

Ziola · The Order of Denderah Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 5774

Well luv, he's my 2 cents. My son is 8, turning 9 at the end of March, and we've already started talking about sex with him. Not because we think he's going to loose his virginity any time soon (girls still have cooties Laughing

), but because we want him to be comfortable with his body, his sexuality and be able to talk to us about it. Both of our children know (and our daughter is only 4), that if they want to play with themselves, they have to do so in the shower when they are alone or in their bedrooms with the door closed. We call it happy time Very Happy

That being said, I can remember being boy crazy at age 11. We would call boys and talk on the phone for hours, about absolutely nothing. It drove my parents crazy! So much so that they ended up getting me my own phone line so I wouldn't tie theirs up Laughing

I went on "dates" at that age, but they were mostly group dates, where a whole bunch of us went out for pizza and movies together, or we hung out at someones house and played games, ate food, watched movies. I know that kids now are a bit more advanced then I was at their age, but I also think that we have to give them some sort of freedome and ability to make decisions. I think that calling the girls back is no big deal. And if he decides that he would like to spend additional time with one (or more) of them, perhaps you should have a small gathering at your house? Nothing big, just a pizza, movie and games night with him and his friends? That way, you can keep and eye on things without seeming like an overprotective or uncool mom...

Luv2Skydive · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 9:13 am Post subject:

Those are really good suggestions Ziola. I get the feeling he isn't too thrilled about discussing anything with me so I need to approach this with extreme caution so I don't freak him out and he shuts down forever. If we got him his own phone ( was about his age, a little older when I got a phone line) it would only be $10 a month. However, he would forget his own head if it wasn't screwed on so I think we'll wait on that a bit. Plus, if he uses mine I'll know when he's talking and maybe that can help open the lines of communication. Girls are still fairly icky to him, but I think the girls are going to change that status before the end of the school year. Wink

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betz28 · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 5:26 pm Post subject:

came in late on this...what did you do...let him call her back?
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Luv2Skydive · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 5:38 pm Post subject:

Yeah, I asked a couple of questions and then let him call her. She wasn't home and he found out that she had lost her cell phone......at 11 years old and girl is losing her CELL PHONE! Shocked

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betz28 · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 5:43 pm Post subject:

hmmmmmmm............. Shocked

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Mirage · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 5:45 pm Post subject:

Luv2Skydive · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 6:22 pm Post subject:

I told my son he could have a cell phone when he's at places without a parent.....so basically when he's driving? Yeah, I wish......but he will be at least 14. I hardly talk on the phone so he can use mine at home. We don't have a landline, just cells. I think I'd have more to worry about it I had a girl. I talked on the phone ALL THE TIME when I was younger, but I also lived in the country so I didn't have anything else to do except talk on the phone and get in trouble.
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Mirage · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 9:06 pm Post subject:

Luv2Skydive · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 9:07 pm Post subject:

Hehehe.....she called again. He was on the phone for at most :45 seconds. She asked him if he had a Valentine and he apparently said no and that's about it. Hahahaha.....girls still have cooties. Phewww!

I did, however, tell him if he wanted to get anything special for someone in his class other than a card he needed to tell me so we can go pick something up tomorrow and he just said "Ok".
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Mirage · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 9:12 pm Post subject: