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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 6:47 am    Post subject: firend/privacy/trust advice |   |  
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				| ok well i came across a video to day of one of my friends I used to go to High school with 
 It was a very "private" video sent to someone  whom she really trusts  and now its uploaded   in allot of places
 
 
 How do i tell her that  he  uploaded it to all different sites and everyone can see this "private" video
 
 she trusted  him allot and i haven't talked to her in awhile, cause we got into this big argument, and she could blame me for doing it cause  way back  i monitored her  activity on her computer, but i had "good" reasons for doing that
 
 I really Don't know what to do....cause if i dont do something I'll feel bad, but i don't want to get her even angryer with me
 
 
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		| Kasdeja Hymn of One
 
  
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 6:56 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				| Find a way to send her the link anonymously? That's a tough one...she definitely deserves to know, but I can understand how it would be hard for you to tell her. _________________
 
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 7:01 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				|  	  | Kasdeja wrote: |  	  | Find a way to send her the link anonymously? That's a tough one...she definitely deserves to know, but I can understand how it would be hard for you to tell her. | 
 
 well i was also thinking, what if he wasn't the one who uploaded it?
 
 i just checked and there was  another  upload of this video with "Webcam Spycam" in the title but m not familiar with spycam and how it works ,or if  its just something the person put in the title to get more hits
 
 because then it could lead to many things
 
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 A:her and her boyfriend breaking up and  I get blamed
 9:they just argue and then  i get blamed for everything
 z:He did  do it and i look like a  HERO
 
 also im gonna go search for orange sluurpies around  her house
  
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 7:02 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				| She should definitely know...but I don't know what that is, either. I wish I were more help. _________________
 
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 7:21 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				| She should know. Somehow.
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 7:33 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				|  	  | xentis wrote: |  	  | well i was also thinking, what if he wasn't the one who uploaded it? 
 i just checked and there was  another  upload of this video with "Webcam Spycam" in the title but m not familiar with spycam and how it works ,or if  its just something the person put in the title to get more hits
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 If it is the kind of content I assume it is, then you can be pretty sure it's just a "marketing ploy", so to speak.
 I never attempted hacking a webcam, but look at it this way: If you were a third-party intruder  to her webcam, you'd have to monitor it almost 24/7 in order to catch her "doing something". Would you want to monitor a single person all day, just because she might just do something "interesting"?
 Also, check for interaction. If she's just...sitting there, with no acknowledgement of the webcam, she might have been unaware; however, if she looks at the camera, talks to it, or interrupts to send an IM, she's definitely aware that the webcam is on, suggesting it's someone she knows and trusts.
 (Or a random stranger on the internet...if she is that type of girl.)
 
 
  	  | xentis wrote: |  	  | because then it could lead to many things 
 a few
 
 A:her and her boyfriend breaking up and  I get blamed
 9:they just argue and then  i get blamed for everything
 z:He did  do it and i look like a  HERO
 
 also im gonna go search for orange sluurpies around  her house
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 If you send her the link anonymously, and don't ever mention you know about it, neither of them can blame you. (Simply because you're not part of the picture.)
 However, if you're not sure it was him, don't accuse him. (Also because "somebody who knows both him and me" limits the list of possible senders to much fewer people than "how did he get my e-mail address?".) Instead, write something like "Do you know this is floating around the web?". Either she...err..."hot plugs" with many people, then she might not even care, or she did it only with one person/few people, then she'll automatically know who released it.
 
 
 Either way, keep in mind: "Anonymous" means do not use your own mail or IM accounts, and don't hint at it in real life.
 If she finds out you knew IRL, but not that you sent the mail, she might go "why didn't you say anything???" and think you're a pervert who doesn't care about her. Keep quiet about this. If she comes talking to you, and knows for a fact who released the footage, you might come forward and tell her it was you who send that link, because you didn't know who released it and were afraid she'd blame you. But only do this if she really knows who did it. Otherwise, you're just seeding doubt.
 
 Although the interesting question is...what were you doing monitoring her computer?
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		| xentis Devoted Fan
 
  
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 7:44 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				| about the spycam thing, i thought  it might be something like  it records when you're recording 
 
 thanks for the info,
 
 
 about the monitoring long story, cause you  wouldn't even understand it if  i summarized it, ill post it  after  i go do some stuff (get Cathy's Book: If Found Call 650-266-8233)
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				|  Posted: Tue Apr 03, 2007 3:55 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				| ok well, well call this girl  hmm name name what to name her.....bee(has nothing to do with bree alto it is close) 
 
 well bee and i meet in middle school at a bus stop (pause story) ok well first   i have to let you know in those days i had A LOT of "issues"  like freaking out and what not (resume story)  and  she was nice and all, we became  friends , made 2 other friends.. now  i only hung around the other two when i was around bee , no one ever would joke around like "FU" type of stuff, i guess it should have tipped me off a bit  but it didn't
 
 
 well eventually  we started "dating" , she asked me to go to a old gerriteys(sp?) which was closed cause they relocated  with one of her friends whom i never met
 
 
 wasn't able to make it and i never knew what  she wanted to do there any who
 
 we would write notes to each other in school<---this is  very important part of story
 
 well, now "I" got a new.....jeez what were they called OH YA mobile "the rapist"
  well  ends of she had one too and  we  ended up with the same one, 
 now she never told me she was in counsellings,
 
 how i found out
 
 
 i guess some how therapist found  out that i was dating her
 bee said she found a note of mine  on her room floor but i don't know , it is believable
 
 so  the therapist keeps trying to bring my girlfriend up and she tells me she is her therapist too, now i don't think there really allowed to do that but whatever
 
 and  we talked about bee for a bit and it seemed she was hinting for me to break up or something
 
 and bee and i  never really talked about our "issues' altho everyone knew mine anyhow, but she "seemed" very average i would have never thought she  was in counsellings
 
 She never talked about it or anything,so i was wondering why she had counciling  and which led me to monitoring and then finding out why
 
 i wish i never knew the reason but i do and  i cant change that ....well i can but i don't want to go thro that
 
 so that led me to  my "good" reason to monitor  her computer  activity
 
 
 authors note- some of this story is true some of it is not, i let the readers choose for themselfs
 
 
 edit-eeekk....sorry for double post
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				|  Posted: Tue Apr 03, 2007 7:28 am    Post subject: |   |  
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				|  	  | xentis wrote: |  	  | so  the therapist keeps trying to bring my girlfriend up and she tells me she is her therapist too, now i don't think there really allowed to do that but whatever | 
 
 Don't know if this part of the story is true, but if so, you're right -- they aren't allowed to do this.  It's really unethical.
 
 I know this because I had a therapist who did something similar, and did a few other no-nos too.  I finally figured out that she wasn't right, and got another therapist.  I checked with Therapist #2 about the stuff Therapist #1 was doing, and Therapist #2 said it was absolutely inappropriate.  We even talked about the possibility of me filing a complaint against Therapist #1 (which I decided not to do, since a completely different friend of mine had some real serious problems with Therapist #1, and was going to file a complaint that I figured would take Therapist #1 out.  But you didn't need to know that).
 
 Anyhoo, the point is that your therapist should not have told you that she was "bee's" therapist too.
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 1:30 pm    Post subject: |   |  
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				| *update* 
 found out its from a couple years ago, now i feel stupid
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				|  Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 7:34 pm    Post subject: |   |  
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				| xentis, don't feel dumb...you were thinking about the welfare of a friend.  That's commendable, in my book! _________________
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		| AutoPilate The Order of Denderah
 
  
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				|  Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 2:02 pm    Post subject: Re: firend/privacy/trust advice |   |  
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				|  	  | xentis wrote: |  	  | (if you dont understand ill try my best to reword it) | 
 Please do.
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		| longlostposter The Order of Denderah
 
  
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				|  Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 2:19 pm    Post subject: |   |  
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				| No doctor, of any kind, is supposed to reveal to a patient any information about another patient; including the name of another of his/her patients. 	  | Languorous Lass wrote: |  	  |  	  | xentis wrote: |  	  | so  the therapist keeps trying to bring my girlfriend up and she tells me she is her therapist too, now i don't think there really allowed to do that but whatever | 
 
 Don't know if this part of the story is true, but if so, you're right -- they aren't allowed to do this.  It's really unethical.
 
 I know this because I had a therapist who did something similar, and did a few other no-nos too.  I finally figured out that she wasn't right, and got another therapist.  I checked with Therapist #2 about the stuff Therapist #1 was doing, and Therapist #2 said it was absolutely inappropriate.  We even talked about the possibility of me filing a complaint against Therapist #1 (which I decided not to do, since a completely different friend of mine had some real serious problems with Therapist #1, and was going to file a complaint that I figured would take Therapist #1 out.  But you didn't need to know that).
 
 Anyhoo, the point is that your therapist should not have told you that she was "bee's" therapist too.
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